The plastic bushing in most pitman arms provides the small amount of movement needed to allow flex between the pitman and idler - so he wasn't blowing smoke there, the pitman or idler pin will shear if they were both made rigid from chassis flex.
a little wiggle to prevent binding is different than a fully pivoting "barber's chair"
I have the exact same setup (ultimate idler and rare parts pitman); however, I have poly bushings and a cognito centerlink and tie-rod kit and run in auto4wd all the time. No issues, but I don't do boosted launches or race much - I'm around 1000ft lbs or so.
i have the Kryptonite centerlink and tie rods. The design reduced some of the stress on the arms compared to stock. When I was only on a max effort built trans, I had no issue. It was when I stepped up to the 68mm stg2r
Moog HD would probably be your best bet though. It may wear quicker than the rare parts, but it'll also provide some resistance from the centerlink rolling. IIRC they use a metal bushing in theirs too.
i went to the DHD brackets and it's launching straight as a grizzly' sick
The shearing issue I'm sure is one of the reasons the PPE arms are drilled out to accept a much larger stud. I haven't seen documentation on exactly how they build those though. I'd bet you'd damage a part with PPE if they're both rigid and you were to off-road with a rigid centerlink like mine, because all that bigger pins is going to do is reintroduce that chassis flex force into the steering box, idler support and centerlink.